****It gives me amazing pleasure to be able to share with you a blog that one of my Sorority sisters wrote for me. First I’m so excited that my LS chose to write for me, and second, I’m just so in love with what she wrote.

Juana is a 24 year old on again off again blogger who is wired in a different way. She loves to have fun and loves to laugh at herself. She’s on a mission to passionately live a life filled with purpose, grace and humility. She’s in love with life and always happy to share something w/ the world through the written word.****

One summer afternoon, I saw my best friend and her husband kiss and turn on their heels to walk back down the aisle together a married man and woman, and as they did so, this song came on:

I wanna love ya and treat ya right

I wanna love ya everyday and every night

We’ll be together with the roof right ova our heads

We’ll share the shelter of my single bed

In one hand she pumped her bouquet in the air to the beat and with the other she held the hand of her new husband, her new partner. I thought to myself, wow, what a beautiful and blessed love, look what God has brought together. Having watched her grow from a talkative, smiley 9 year old to a beautiful bride, I was moved and happy that she now had what I think we all deserve. I turned to my boyfriend and we both smiled at each other, unspoken, but our eyes saying, one day, we know we will have this.

It has been over a year since that day and my boyfriend and I are going strong, despite the inevitable ups and downs of every relationship, we have remained committed to the bond we share. Asking the Lord to bless what we have and attempting whole-heartedly to live and love in a way that we can both be proud of. We have seen each other at low points and have loved in spite of every character flaw. In the happy times we have embraced and known that this is why we are together, the joy heavily outweighing any tears or frustrations that may come.

Having come from a road littered with the ugly marks of heartbreak and sadness, I have come to understand myself as a woman and I have realized that blessings have no time for baggage. I say this to say, when I found it difficult to trust in a love so strong, I came to realize that love could not grow if I held it back with fears and timidity. I have come to see that God’s blessings flow freely if you’ll accept them freely. When He bestows His favor upon a situation in your life, He makes it so that the situation can be completely fulfilled. He does not bless you with a car and no gas, he will not give you a home and no $ for which to maintain it; I have seen now that when this happens, you have to reevaluate how you have handled your blessings and sift through all of the madness to try and understand if your “stroke of luck” came from the will of God or if it came from him letting you have your way. I am not preaching, only saying what I have seen and come to know for myself.

My relationship has moved forward in a way that has truly blessed my life. I have a man who sits and listens to my rants and raves, even when I know he’s not listening. He cares enough to sit and at least offer a comment every now and then that lets me know what I feel is important to him. He compromises and expects me to do the same and he loves me enough to understand that sometimes we will not always agree, but that it’s ok. I am learning how to be a better person, and he and I are growing together. Our love is being shaped by each of us, it is a partnership that only involves the two of us and God.

When a man and a woman understand each other’s goals and desires a bond is formed that is incredibly strong. He understands what I want out of life and I understand the same of him, we have found that our goals and values match, and left room for growth, change and improvement. I have heard it said that faulty communication and an opposing set of expectations can be the ruin of a relationship, and that makes sense to me.

I would say that a few key elements of healthy relationships are faith, privacy, learning to let go of the petty things, giving each other space when it’s needed, respect, and allowing the past to only serve in the capacity that it teaches you something. I have told my boyfriend what I expect of him and he has told me the same, we communicate and it has allowed the love in our hearts to become something deeper than we ever imagined. I am not in love with him in a way that is whimsical and frivolous and blind to the fact that there will be tough times. When I think of how much I love him, it brings tears to my eyes because it is not muddled in my head. I absolutely love loving my man, and our love makes perfect sense to me. For me, being in love with him is a complete joy and I am happy that I can put it into words, and sometimes when I sit and think, really think, I am at a loss for words and tears of happiness flow as freely as the blessings that provoked them.

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